KiKing off-camera: a conversation with our erotic photo soirée models
Sex KiKi recently hosted an erotic photo soirée to celebrate our community, and give them the opportunity to be part of creating ethical erotic imagery, but joy, empowerment, and intimacy don’t end on set. Here’s what one of our model/volunteers had to say about their on-set experience, visual inspirations and their journey toward sex-positivity overall. This is part two of a two-part Q&A series.
Q: What made you come out and take part in our erotic photo soirée?
A: I’ve actually been waiting to do something like that and it was good timing. I’ve been working on my own erotic videos, visuals, photography, galleries and just haven’t had the interaction with that type of community yet. I don’t know if I have just been putting the thoughts out there and it all worked out and came to me. I knew that I didn’t want to do it alone, I wanted to learn about modeling and photography so this was a really good opportunity.
Q: Talk to me about your experience, what was it like getting in front of the camera? Did you draw inspiration from someone or something?
A: It was very comfortable getting in front of the camera. I had two different experiences one was before I left the house and the other was when I was actually at the shoot. Before I left the house, I was trying to pick out what props and garments I would bring to the shoot. This caused a little bit of anxiety because I have been playing around a lot with different femme and masc items lately and trying to figure out what my balance is. And trying to figure out what the interaction is for both within me and that is really recent. I’m currently reconstructing my idea of erotic, sexy, sensual, of all of that and its ongoing. The fact that this opportunity came up was exciting because I got to explore that. It was a little nerve-wracking before that because I don’t have any concrete idea of what that looks like for myself right now.
However, when I got there and it was time to be in front of the camera that all melted away and I was in a space where I felt comfortable. All of those thoughts left and I was able to be present and in the moment.
Nicci (art director & photographer), Cori (founder & creative director of sex KiKi/SK Studios), and the other photographers had a good idea of what they wanted already and when they showed me the images they had for inspiration or the type of vibe they wanted to embody that made it simple to see that and reproduce in my own image. The vibe was really intentional for a specific erotic purpose and that was helpful for me.
Q: Talk to me about your journey towards sex-positivity and why that matters to you?
A: It matters because for me personally it’s how I feel. I know that sex itself or things surrounding sex, meaning sexuality as an identity or just sexuality as a concept, all of those things are in a spectrum of importance. For some people, it's really important and for some people, it doesn’t really play a major role in their life. Anywhere that anyone falls in that spectrum should be honored but for me, it's incredibly important. Learning about sex-positivity and then incorporating that into my own life is 100 percent how I’ve been healing for the last few years, and healing from lots of things.
Sex-positivity is how I build my communities now. If I reflect on the communities that I was a part of a couple of years ago versus now, they are very different and a lot of that subconsciously is about sex-positivity. The people that I surround myself with and the person I am now, are all invested in figuring out what makes them feel best, how to heal, and how to live in their body. It's an internal feeling, connecting to certain things, unlearning certain things, remembering certain things and that extends itself externally to who I’m in contact with every day.
Q: Why do you think it's important to have sex-positive spaces like sex KiKi?
A: As marginalized people it's imperative. It’s a privilege to be part of those spaces and I wish that it wasn’t. I wish that it was something that every marginalized person had access to. Unfortunately, that is not the reality.
We know that there is history, there is history in our genes, in our DNA within us and there is also the ways that we are living out whoever we are every day, and that who we are is constantly changing. I believe that being in those spaces, people inviting you to those spaces, remaining in those spaces is beautiful.
I noticed (at the shoot) that everyone's comfort level of being nude, being in certain poses, or posing with different items was so different. No one was on the same exact level or place in their journey but everyone was there for a reason. Everyone got something out of that day for sure and everyone can thrive if given the opportunity to ask questions.
Check out this video for more behind the scenes fun!