This week on The sex KiKi, Rashida KhanBey Miller (rashidakhanbeymiller.com/) KiKi's with Coriama and Angelique about her life and work as a sensuality coach (instagram.com/rashidakhanbeymiller/), filmmaker (Sex Is A God Thing vimeo.com/102058058) and entrepreneur (www.instagram.com/thetemptressboudoir/). During this episode, Rashida details her journey to embracing her own sensuality, what empowers her to empower sensuality in others, her relationship with religion and sexuality, and she defines what she calls, The Beyoncé Spectrum. Coriama and Angelique also expand on the following themes:
- Wack sex - What's wrong with body positivity - The work of marriage - Movement as power - Mental health and self-care practice - Health and family history - Telling real Queer stories - How spiritual practice informs sensuality work - Monogamy & Non-Monogamy - Sex positivity as freedom
-Just The Tip: advice segment inviting guests to answer questions from our sex KiKi forums or questions from our advice column with Spectrum Boutique. The question Rashida answered was "How do you begin to explore sexuality with yourself and others outside of social expectations?"
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1:22 Angelique shares what she’s been journaling about regarding her thoughts on being a sex positive person in public while being partnered or in relation to other people
4:14 Coriama speaks about what she’s been journaling about regarding healthy queer relationships, Lilith in Leo, and being publicly sex positive in relationships with other people
7:40 Coriama shares her experience with expectations in sexual relationships, particularly with cis males and feeling like they want her to be their sexual concierge without reciprocation
8:47 The importance of queer/fluid understanding in a relationship regardless of gender
13:16 Rashida describes her lifestyle
17:28 Rashida talks about her journey as a entrepreneur and how marrying their partner Miler made more things possible
23:11 Rashida talks about Let Go & Let God & various projects and how their sex positive journey started in college during a study abroad in Brazil
30:36 & 38:35 Body Positivity and the current cultural climate around it
33:21 The Beyoncé Spectrum
37:00 Pluto in Scorpio generation and the energy of sex positivity, a trending topic, and are people truly tired of having sex that isn’t pleasurable
44:08 style as a communication and the spectrum of beauty
47:40 Rashida talks about her dance class experience and the negative experiences with fat shaming from one of her favorite teachers early in her development
52:00 Relationship to spirit is a dance practice for Rashida and a way back to god, experience praise dancing
55:00 Being queer and Christian and language that deems damnation and fear based culture
1:02:27 The conversation around HIV/AIDS and the love of dance early in Rashida’s experience, when one of her mentors died from the virus
1:10:35 Defining marriage/relationships outside of heteronormative expectations and Rashida’s perspective on relationships being define spiritual assignments
1:14:16 Just The Tip: advice segment inviting guests to answer questions from our sex KiKi forums or questions from our advice column with Spectrum Boutique. The question Rashida answered was "How do you begin to explore sexuality with yourself and others outside of social expectations?"
1:20:23 Rashida shares her monogamous relationship experience and her partners open relationship experience and understanding the spectrum of “open relationships” along learning curves and processing fear